Atomic Habits – James Clear #reading

The second book that I finished reading in 2025 was ‘Atomic Habits’ by James Clear. I had previously listened to the audiobook version almost immediately after it was released in 2018 but I picked it up again because it was selected as the January title for an online book club that I am a member of within The Timecrafting Trust (Mike Vardy). I will admit that, as much as anything, this time round my interest in Atomic Habits was focused on why it has occupied the bestseller lists for pretty much the entire period of its existence, selling an astonishing 15 million copies in the process (the irony of the fact that I have contributed two of those sales over the years was not lost on me!).

As the subtitle suggests, Atomic Habits positions itself as a guide to building good habits and breaking bad ones. It certainly does start off with a strong focus on (daily) habits, but as I worked my way through the text I soon found myself thinking that it wasn’t really about habits, rather it was simply about how to get things done.

Early in the book I found myself railing against Clear’s argument that habits are such powerful things because they act like compound interest – if you adopt a daily habit to become 1% better in some respect then the power of that habit compounds each day. Clear suggests that if you get 1 percent better each day for one year then you will end up 37 times better by the time you are done and implies that such improvements in personal performance or skill can be achieved by repeatedly performing a 1% better habit each day (note: 37 times better, not 37% better – I checked the maths!). But this is surely not true. A habit that makes you 1% better on the first day continues to make you 1% better than you originally were on the second and subsequent days, but to get better and better (i.e. to grow or compound the percentage improvement) I think you would have to change your activity on each successive day. I accept that there might well be some additional gain to be had by repeating the same habit each day, but not to the extent suggested by the comparison with compound interest. For example, if you adopt a habit of running a mile each day then you will certainly get fitter over an extended period of time than if you just go for the run once, but after a while you will find that your fitness has reached a plateau and to gain further improvement you will have to start running two miles each day etc. In my opinion, if you have to constantly change what you are doing then you are not developing a habit, you are just carrying out an ongoing programme of self-improvement! [I suppose it could be argued that the habit is then repeatedly showing up to complete that ever-changing activity.]

Setting aside my reservations about whether the book is really about habits or, as I think, about setting up your life so that you are more likely to get things done in general, where Atomic Habits succeeds is in distilling the ideas covered into a very simple set of four principles or laws. Each of these laws is matched to one of the stages associated with taking action: cue, craving, response and reward. Clear states these laws as follows:

  • make it obvious
  • make it attractive
  • make it easy
  • make it satisfying

I think it is hard to argue with this framework. Clear considers each of these laws in some detail offering various suggestions to help in each case, but I think that much of this material is not that necessary because the four laws do most of the heavy-lifting on their own.

Put simply: if you want to increase the chances that you will perform a task or activity then you need to make it more obvious and/or more attractive and/or easier and/or more satisfying. Similarly, to combat a bad or unwanted habit, you need to make the cue that triggers it less visible and make the habit itself less attractive and/or more difficult to do and/or less satisfying. I think it is this simplicity of the core message in Atomic Habits that is the secret of its success and its astonishing sales figures. It’s a message that is obviously right (or at least feels obviously right), easy to remember and also easy to make use of.
Job done.

Todo List #poem

PAST

OVERDUE:
[ ] all the tasks that I said yes to when I ought to have said no
[ ] all the calls I need to follow-up so their businesses can grow
[ ] all the projects I took upon myself so that I could people please
[ ] all the projects I need to do to put myself at ease
[ ] all the urgent emails that I know I should have sent
[ ] all the bookings that I should have made ahead of the event
[ ] all those things that no one cares about but I think are a must
[ ] all those gadgets that need mending before they fully bust
[ ] all the delegated tasks from others resulting from their lack of time
[ ] all the things I think I should do so they think I’m fine
[ ] all the action points from meetings that I think were flagged for me
[ ] all the edits to the documents that I know you need to see

OTHER:
[ ] more tasks that I said yes to when I wanted to say no
[ ] more calls I’d like to follow-up to help my business grow
[ ] more projects I have taken on so I can people please
[ ] more projects that I want to do to put myself at ease
[ ] more emails that I know that it would help for me to send
[ ] more plans that I could make for upcoming events
[ ] more things that no one cares about but I think are a must
[ ] more gadgets that need maintenance to stop them going bust
[ ] more delegated tasks from others resulting from their lack of time
[ ] more things I’d like to finish (only then will I feel fine)
[ ] more action points from meetings that I let them flag to me
[ ] more edits to the documents that I’d like you to see

SOMEDAY/MAYBE:
[ ] try to make some art
[ ] try to pause a while
[ ] try to take time for myself
[ ] try to have fun
[ ] try to meet up with a friend
[ ] try to smile
[ ] try to laugh
[ ] try to simply do the things I want
[ ] try to quench my thirst
[ ] try to look after my brain
[ ] try to use a different font
[ ] try to listen to my heart
[ ] try to sit in the sun
[ ] try to soak up the rain
[ ] try to read the books that are piled upon the shelf
[ ] try to have a nice relaxing bath
[ ] try to ‘pay myself first’
[ ] try to ignore the latest trend

WAITING FOR:
[ ] the perfect time
[ ] the stars to align
[ ] the mists to clear
[ ] the loss of fear
[ ] all of the pieces to fall into place
[ ] and, of course, the ideal space
[ ] the feeling that it’s right
[ ] and for my chest to feel less tight
[ ] a decent night’s sleep
[ ] the bravery to take a leap
[ ] something to drink, and some food
[ ] the right mood

TODO TODAY:
[ ] put a cross in the unchecked boxes and strike-through all the words in the following lists:
…….[ ] WAITING FOR
…….[ ] OTHER
…….[ ] OVERDUE
[ ] wherever they appear in the SOMEDAY/MAYBE list strike-through the words: ‘try to’
[ ] start a new list with the title ‘TODO (RECURRING – EVERY DAY)’
[ ] add the unchecked tasks from SOMEDAY/MAYBE in a pleasing way
[ ] tear up all of the old lists and throw them right away

PRESENT

OVERDUE:
[x] all the tasks that I said yes to when I ought to have said no
[x] all the calls I need to follow-up so their businesses can grow
[x] all the projects I took upon myself so that I could people please
[x] all the projects I need to do to put myself at ease
[x] all the urgent emails that I know I should have sent
[x] all the bookings that I should have made ahead of the event
[x] all those things that no one cares about but I think are a must
[x] all those gadgets that need mending before they fully bust
[x] all the delegated tasks from others resulting from their lack of time
[x] all the things I think I should do so they think I’m fine
[x] all the action points from meetings that I think were flagged for me
[x] all the edits to the documents that I know you need to see

OTHER:
[x] more tasks that I said yes to when I wanted to say no
[x] more calls I’d like to follow-up to help my business grow
[x] more projects I have taken on so I can people please
[x] more projects that I want to do to put myself at ease
[x] more emails that I know that it would help for me to send
[x] more plans that I could make for upcoming events
[x] more things that no one cares about but I think are a must
[x] more gadgets that need maintenance to stop them going bust
[x] more delegated tasks from others resulting from their lack of time
[x] more things I’d like to finish (only then will I feel fine)
[x] more action points from meetings that I let them flag to me
[x] more edits to the documents that I’d like you to see

SOMEDAY/MAYBE:
[ ] try to make some art
[ ] try to pause a while
[ ] try to take time for myself
[ ] try to have fun
[ ] try to meet up with a friend
[ ] try to smile
[ ] try tolaugh
[ ] try to simply do the things I want
[ ] try to quench my thirst
[ ] try to look after my brain
[ ] try to use a different font
[ ] try to listen to my heart
[ ] try to sit in the sun
[ ] try to soak up the rain
[ ] try to read the books that are piled upon the shelf
[ ] try to have a nice relaxing bath
[ ] try to ‘pay myself first’
[ ] try to ignore the latest trend

WAITING FOR:
[x] the perfect time
[x] the stars to align
[x] the mists to clear
[x] the loss of fear
[x] all of the pieces to fall into place
[x] and, of course, the ideal space
[x] the feeling that it’s right
[x] and for my chest to feel less tight
[x] a decent night’s sleep
[x] the bravery to take a leap
[x] something to drink, and some food
[x] the right mood

TODO TODAY:
[x] put a tick in the unchecked boxes and strike-through all the words in the following lists:
…….[x] WAITING FOR
…….[x] OTHER
…….[x] OVERDUE
[x] wherever they appear in the SOMEDAY/MAYBE list strike-through the words: ‘try to’
[x] start a new list with the title ‘TODO (RECURRING – EVERY DAY)’
[x] add the unchecked tasks from SOMEDAY/MAYBE in a pleasing way
[x] tear up all of the old lists and throw them right away

FUTURE

TODO (RECURRING – EVERY DAY):
[ ] quench my thirst
[ ] ‘pay myself first’
[ ] read the books that are piled upon the shelf
[ ] take time for myself
[ ] soak up the rain
[ ] look after my brain
[ ] make some art
[ ] listen to my heart
[ ] sit in the sun
[ ] have fun
[ ] have a nice relaxing bath
[ ] laugh
[ ] pause a while
[ ] smile
[ ] ignore the latest trend
[ ] meet up with a friend
[ ] use a different font
[ ] simply do the things I want

(c) Tim O’Hare, June 2023


About this poem: I’ve been something of a ‘productivity geek’ for quite a few years using various systems of lists to track what I need to do (or think I need to do). Much of this tracking behaviour is built on a very well-known system known as ‘Getting Things Done’ (GTD) from a book with the same name by the author David Allen. This uses lists for things To Do, things that you are Waiting For, things you might do Someday and/or Maybe etc. Recently, I’ve been trying to relax my use of such systems, especially as I have realised that tracking everything in this way also feeds some of my obsessive collecting and perfectionist behaviours and supports my ‘people pleasing’ tendency. Todo List tries to capture a way out of this pattern of thinking, turning the controlling power of a Todo List into a weapon to destroy the worst aspects of the behaviour such lists can engender.

Does It Matter? #poem

Does it matter what they’re thinking?
Does it matter what they think of what I say?
Does it matter if I do what they’re expecting?
Does it matter if I do it anyway?

Does it matter if I play the game they choose?
Does it matter if they think that I’m a fool?
Does it matter if I win or if I lose?
Does it matter if I play by different rules?

Does it matter if I do it when I should do?
Does it matter if I go at my own pace?
Does it matter if I keep myself beside you?
Does it matter if I run a different race?

Does it matter if I wear a different colour?
Does it matter if I my hair’s a little long?
Does it matter if I like things to be quieter?
Does it matter if I break out into song?

Does it matter if I go across the bridge?
Does it matter if I’m in a different land?
Does it matter if I speak a different language?
Does it matter if I’m hard to understand?

Does it matter if I go to different places?
Does it matter if I seem a little weird?
Does it matter if I once wore rainbow laces?
Does it matter if I’m nothing to be feared?

Does it matter what they’re thinking?
Does it matter what they think of what I say?
Does it matter if I do what they’re expecting?
I think I’ll do it anyway.

(c) Tim O’Hare, June 2023


About this poem: I had read an article about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and how this can lead to ‘people pleasing’ behaviour, something that I tend to adopt strongly. ‘Does It Matter?’ tries to capture aspects of the internal struggle that works its way through my head on a near continuous basis and also provides a form of written antidote that reminds me that I do not have to do what I think is expected of me or behave in the ways that I think I am expected to behave or only do things once I have received some form of external confirmation that they are worthwhile or valid things to do.

This was the second poem I wrote, back in early summer 2023. It’s been clear since then that writing and publishing my poems has helped me to become much less dependent on receiving external validation for my work and much happier to just put stuff out there and see what happens (even if that turns out to be nothing very much!). I think this poem expressed something that I always knew inside but was perhaps a little fearful to recognize.

Metamorphosis #poem

Is it time to slough it off,
that rough, tough, protective skin,
that hide for unseen treasures deep within.

He had not felt it grow, but grow it had for many years,
thickening the defensive wall,
blurring eyes and muffling ears.

So early it had started, so slowly it had grown,
he’d noticed not the tightening as it closed around his bones,
holding him together safe and sound or so it seemed,
whilst locking him away to form a shield for self-esteem.

But he had heard the screams
and he had seen the flashes of the inner rage
and he had felt the punches as they slammed against the cage,
only recognising who they came from when witnessed in his broken dreams.

Years passed and then
worn thin by constant wear the first crack had appeared,
at last revealing what it was
and how the dangers it held fast against were nothing to be feared.

So, slough it off, that rough, tough defensive skin,
and let new life begin.
Slough it off, that mask of false protection
and let us see at last what treasures lie within.

(c) Tim O’Hare, June 2023


About this poem: After a coaching session at work talking through some of the challenges I face as a result of my ADHD-traits and the difficulty I find in allowing myself to be the way that I want to be rather than the way that I think I ought to be I was struck by the thought that I needed to let go of the protective behaviours and attitudes I had unknowingly constructed for myself over the years and, in the process, allow my authentic self to emerge. The image that came to mind was of a reptile shedding its skin and for some reason the phrase ‘slough it off’ popped into my head in association with this image. I quickly became rather fond of the word ‘slough’ and then, for the first time ever in my life really and without any warning or deliberate effort, I started to write a poem. ‘Metamorphosis’ is the first evidence that having sloughed off my metaphorical protective skin there was something different and unexpected lurking within!

Note: I have previously posted all of my poetry in a separate website: http://andapoet.blog but I have decided that I will gradually migrate all of that content to this site.